The effect that a divorce can have on a child is profound. Although discussing
your divorce with your child can often be the hardest step in the process,
it’s important that you handle it properly. In this blog, our Denver
divorce attorney shares tips on how to minimize the impact of a divorce
on a child.
You can explain the terms of your divorce with your child without being
overly critical of your ex-spouse. While this may be difficult to do,
especially if the marriage is ending due to the actions of one particular
parent, your child will see that there is still a mutual respect between
you and your spouse.
Remember to Reassure
During the divorce transition, reassuring your child that he or she is
still loved by both parents is extremely important. If you can’t
promise that everything will remain the same, then don’t promise
it. There will be differences in everyone’s lives once the divorce
is finalized, and there is no use tip-toeing around the inevitable.
Keep the Discussion Open
There will be times when your child won’t want to discuss the divorce
or talk to either parent regarding their separation, and you should let
them have that time. Even if your child doesn’t have questions or
comments right away, it’s not to say there won’t be any in
the future. Keeping the discussion open allows your child to feel welcome
to come to either parent to discuss how they’re feeling when they’re ready.
Establish a New Routine
A big part of every child’s life is their day-to-day routine, which
can be greatly disrupted once divorce is on the table. Take the initiative
and establish a new routine early on, and make sure it’s consistent.
During the transition, it’s common for children to test the boundaries
and behavioral rules. Be firm, but loving. As a parent, you can show that
regardless of situation, you and your child will get through it as a family.
Filing for divorce and need help understanding your rights? At Peek Family
Law, LLC, our dedicated Denver divorce attorney can ensure that you not
only understand your rights, but that they’re protected. Contact
us today to
schedule your consultation.